Tammy Slaton here me OUT!!!!
Dec 31, 2018
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zOUKUsTPE7M

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good morning and good morning to the
next day why I am coming on like this
it's a little different today you guys I
I'm gonna be honest I'm gonna be a
hundred percent honest so today is
Monday New Year's Eve
I did not vlog yesterday there was some
things that happened and I'm gonna get
into it a little bit I'm gonna touch a
little bit on it um but it consumes a
lot of my day yesterday and I'm not okay
with that my I've told you guys this
multiple multiple times and I'm gonna
say it again my channel is my passion
you guys are the best thing that has
ever happened to me and I'm being that
honest right out of my heart I have met
some amazing people and majority of
everybody that has been ever on my
channel has always been very kind and
amazing to me I am NOT a person that
embraces drama I am NOT a person that
metals in people's business I like to
keep to myself as most of you guys know
majority of you guys do um and I just
like to keep out of other people's
problems I don't mind being there as you
know a final board for people to talk to
and you know I if I have suggestions I
don't mind giving them I love hearing
people's suggestions for things for me
um but when it comes down to downright
drama I really like to keep myself as
far away from that as possible as
growing up um up until about six years
ago it was really well no I mean I'm
gonna back it up even more than that
till I was about 16 17 maybe even 18 um
I had a tendency of not realizing that
keeping conversations confidential are
very very important I was grown or I was
raised up with you know some sick but
someone farts it's like a chain reaction
everybody picks up their phones and says
someone so farted in this note like this
and that isn't I mean that's just I'm
just using I am just using an example
but that's how my family works if a
child misbehaves it's a chain reaction
of phone calls when called and the
so-and-so gets the phone call and Sosa
and he goes down the line and that's how
I was raised I did that for up until I
marry dolly I was the same way I
something happened I would jump on my
phone I would call my family and then to
him but then I knew that they would jump
on their phone and call the next person
and tell them what happened and so on
and so forth it was a very bad
repetitious cycle so when all he came he
lives more well he was raised as having
more of a private life there are certain
things that don't need to be shared
outside the home not because it's secret
or top secret agent type stuff nothing
like that but there's things that need
to stay in the home that doesn't need to
be shared and there's things that are
totally cool to be shared as a vlogger
somebody that does it in a daily basis I
think bring you know somebody that
brings the world in to see their home
and their family it's much harder to
keep certain things kind of out of this
out of the limelight because well you're
vlogging so your your phone is or your
camera is I'm gonna sit here and I'm
gonna eat my breakfast yes I have six
sausage links for 280 calories we need
to go grocery shopping I have like zero
Zippo Zee no nothing that has to do with
nothing but carbs everything has carbs
in my house so um I asked don't leave
this where I'm like babe what can I have
for breakfast he's like I don't know
nothing or he said food he said because
you can't eat towels you can't eat and
I'm like looking at I'm like really are
you serious right now he always comes up
with the most corniest information or
comment of like answers so anyways I
told him I said well I think we have
sausage links in the fridge turkey
sausage links I'm like so go make me a
couple of those if you would like or I
can do it he's like no I'm already
making breakfast so I'll do it so I have
that and then I have my what what we
call its chez which is tea in Arabic I
have this every morning and it's he
makes it with its Egyptian tea and then
it has like being a vlogger and
uploading on a daily basis as my passion
that's what I love to do that I love to
show my journey of my weight loss my
trauma healing from as a child up to an
adulthood
being a mother being a wife being an
entreprenuer
and everything in between
with that said like I said there are
things though that you don't need to
share with the entire world
of course as husband and wife
you have disagreements sometimes of
course I I don't feel the need to need
to you know record those conversations
if me and only have a disagreement or
some people do I'm not one of them to me
I think that's drama that doesn't need
to be brought into my channel one
because there's things you know if you
start sharing one-sided stories it can
really chain the volume and the flavor
for the opposite person and so I really
tried to be very cautious about how I
speak about others on my channel how I
perceive my opinion about other people's
channels um some channels I you know I
watch and I don't understand them but
would that make me a better person or a
better youtuber because I think there's
another channel out there that makes no
sense
no um but at the same time I also watch
youtubers and I can relate to them Ince
all many ways more than one and I tend
to almost feel like they become a part
of my daily ritual of things that I
watch things that I do I even sometimes
take some of their tactics that they use
in their families and I put it in my own
family that's the great thing about
learning from others with that said
here's what I was struggling with so I'm
gonna say this straightforward I don't
want anybody to feel like I am attacking
anybody because that's so not what if
you've watched me long enough you know
that that's not my personality and I
would never ever ever ever ever want
somebody to feel bad I would never want
somebody to feel like I am attacking
them because that's just not the person
I am two wrongs don't make a right and
and I believe that motto 100% I teach my
children that all the time so the other
day there was some misunderstandings and
administrate say who the channel is and
it's Tammy Slaton as most all no I
really I really like Tammy you know we
were on each other snaps you know she
helped me you know grow my channel she
has talked very good about me and you
know I totally absolutely loved Tammy
for Tammy however the other day she had
a live and on that live she was talking
she okay so let me back it up a little
bit
turn the bail on everybody that I follow
but when you follow as many channels as
I follow because I follow channels for
cricket I follow channels for my family
vloggers I follow channels for health
you know eating stuff trauma parenting I
mean I follow hundreds of channels okay
we'll just say that I don't sit and
watch them bin Jamal no uh-huh
now but I mean there's one sit I do
watch every single day but I turned the
bill on for every single one of them but
every time someone would upload I would
get notified which is fine but when you
follow as many channels as I do that is
like my phone going off every ten
minutes if not more in that multiple
times sometimes within ten minutes and
it got very overwhelming
so what I did is I thought that you have
to unsubscribe to rese absque ribe to
turn off the bail notification I'm still
new on learning some of this stuff I
have not been a YouTube user for very
long pretty much as long as I've been
making a channel
it's about when I started doing YouTube
ollie on the other hand has done YouTube
for many years like watched it because
he watches a lot of his Arabic shows and
stuff through there but I personally
have not so when I unsubscribe to my
channels to Risa scribe I had went down
the line okay and some of them I went
back and subscribed to but then some of
them I completely forgotten I just
haven't had a chance to and then when it
would come up like a video would come up
or somebody would say something in order
to remind me oh gosh I haven't seen a
video from that person for awhile I'll
go to their channel realize oh crap I
forgot to put my subscribe button so
there was conversation between me and
Tami about some stuff on like channels
and things like that well she took what
I had said and decided to announce it to
her entire channel that was watching her
life that I personally unsubscribe to
this channel now that was not the truth
okay I did unsubscribe to this certain
channel not because I unsubscribe
because they didn't like them now like I
said everybody's channels are their own
personal channel everybody's channels
have their own way of working some are
review channels some our opinion
channels some are this summer that okay
so with that I told her that I had
unsubscribe that I was personally
thinking about on subscribing to this
channel so but I didn't tell her I did
it I said I was considering it well I
did unsubscribe but I did it under the
influence that I thought I had to
determine the bail notification off so I
forgot
go back and subscribe to that channel
but she turned around and told the
entire channel her channel that I an
subscribed to this channel it's a
channel that reviews about her I did not
catch that I did not hear it I was in
the middle of making my kid's lunch when
this conversation was happening I guess
and Ollie had my phone and he was he had
said Oh someone said hi to you and I was
like I would tell him to say art you
know text him back and say hello so he
answered like 2 or 3 people on the live
saying hello then there was you know me
and her we're talking me and Tammy I'm
not I need to use her name because I
don't want any miscommunication or miss
information taken contacts me and Tammy
also talked about making her a shirt for
my vinyl business and that she would do
a review on it and I was gonna make her
a tumbler as well but I was having you
know I was trying to find where I can
order shirts and things like that
so in that same conversation okay we
talked about well if the review goes
well maybe we can do a merge together
but it wasn't something that we made a
hundred percent you know because if I do
merge with a company or with a with a
youtube channel of course it's gonna be
a big quantity of an order first of all
there's gonna be a contract because it's
a business-to-business thing
second of all you're gonna pay the full
amount before I could even do it which
then in return she would have to pay me
for that full amount so we did not talk
about doing a complete like we didn't
make plans to do merge but she went told
everybody that were business partners
and that we're gonna do merch and this
and that so I had people coming back to
me and asking me these questions and I'm
like what are you talking about I had no
idea because again like I said I was
making lunch for my kids I wasn't paying
attention I had her on life but
sometimes I'll do that I'll have it you
know a channel online
and I'll just put it up and I'll be
listening sometimes I catch everything
sometimes I don't that was just the time
that I was not catching everything that
she was talking about however in that
same life she did tell people to shout
me out and are subscribed to me and said
very good kind things to me so you know
again we weren't we had no beef excuse I
had to let my chickens in anyways so
conversations were kind of terse too
twisted and turned around but okay you
know things happen miscommunication
happens miss you know words happen it's
we're human I wouldn't expect us to be a
hundred percent that didn't upset me at
all but I just had went to Tammi
privately and asked her you know please
please please unless we have contract
don't talk about merch don't talk about
you know that type of stuff because you
know that can get very sticky I'm not
LLC yet I'm trying to get all that
squared away and taken care of you I'm
trying to figure out tax stuff because I
mean if this is gonna be a legit
business okay Ezra I told you if you're
gonna come in here you've got to be
quiet that if this is gonna be an you
know legit business I've got to do my
taxes on it I mean there's so much
there's a lot okay and I'm not at all
saying that you know I I know it all but
I do know a lot about taxes I ran a
business for I well 11 years on my own
and previous to that I did multiple
years so 24 years total
I ran childcare and every year I had to
do the taxes and that was never fun
but I know what you need to have in
order to do your taxes when you own your
own private business so I've been keep
taking my steps on that but like I told
her you got to be really careful and
cautious like you can't just blast
things out I'm not at a point where I
want to put big orders and yet I'm still
getting used to my machines I'm still
getting used to a little you know like
private orders
but you know I'm doing the best I can
but you got to be really cautious so
just be really careful come to me and
ask me if it's okay to share that type
of stuff you know and also I really
would appreciate just like I told you
before and this is me having this
conversation with her whenever you talk
to me about something it will always be
in confidentiality I will never take a
conversation that we have and share it
with anybody that is something that I
will never breach with somebody ever
again because I know the feeling and I
said and I told you you could always
talk to me and I would never share what
you talked to me with because what you
say to me comes right in and it stays
there and I said but I would assume that
that would happen the same with you that
would I share with you or that we talk
about would stay confidential whether it
be a good thing bad thing or just
something that doesn't make any sense
whatever is shared with you you should
keep it in confidentiality and in
private unless you ask the person hey do
you mind if I share this or do you mind
if I talk about this because then that
gives the chance for the person that
shared the information to have the
respect and the right to say yes you
know what I don't mind you speaking
about that or you know right now I think
it's probably better not to bring that
up thank you for asking but that didn't
happen
my business was kind of blasted out
there and you know I really didn't
appreciate it because again I protect
I'm like what is on my forehead
I am so sorry I'm gonna say right now my
kids are in the background they are
getting Moana pictures copied off of the
printer
so they could sit in color that's what
that this works
anyways so back to confidentiality when
somebody shares something with you as
like with me I sometimes up to 30 emails
sharing life stories things that you
know I can use in my own daily life but
here's the thing I've never and I never
would ever share okay
I would never share those conversations
with anybody because those things are
called confidential conversations but
speaking from a person that does know
about keeping conversations confidential
I just I guess expect it from everybody
and I know that it's harder for others
than it is for others I don't think she
thought what she said was wrong and it's
not in a sense it's not like it's
something that started mental I mean I
don't share that type of information
with anybody but I mean you know I just
there's there's a boundary there that
you have to put yourself where you have
to keep friendships and conversations
separate from sometimes your YouTube
channel and your videos I am nowhere mad
at her I reached out to her well she she
messaged me the yesterday morning and
said thanks to you or thinks because of
you I was reported I was like what the
heck what is she talking about so I
messaged her and I'm like what are you
talking about
well she blocked me off of snaps so I
couldn't respawn back to her like okay
so I went to her message or on
Facebook's I thought I need to get in
touch with her some way somehow because
I I really don't know how else to get in
touch with her but I want to squash this
like I want to figure out what did I
report her on because I'm not a reporter
I don't report people you know what
everybody lives their lives the way they
want to
their lives who am I to judge on things
so I messaged her and I said Tammy I
really would like to know what I
reported you on I said I am so confused
I you know you snapped me this morning
said that because of you I got reported
but where did I report you what did I
report you for and when did I report you
I would really like to get this
information and she kept seeing my
messages but she wasn't responding back
so then she like I there's a way on your
on your message or on facebook you can
Mike you don't want to block the person
in general but you can block them from
being able to message you so she did
that I'm like okay well then I guess I'm
not getting my answers because now she's
walking on every which way I don't have
her phone number so I just left it
because I thought okay you know I've
done what I could do I reached out to
her I really don't know where I
supposedly reported her at but now I
guess the word is that I've reported her
so last night she messaged back and she
said I did not say that you reported me
your so-called friend reported me I
messaged her back and I said Tammy
that's not what you said on snap you
said thanks to you I got reported I
would like to know when I personally
reported you because that to me that
message right there states I reported
you thanks to you I got reported so
where and when and how did I report you
so she sees the message she doesn't
answer back this is going on until two
o'clock in the morning I send her a
question mark about an hour later
because she never responded back the
only thing that she responded back was
don't worry about it okay
I'm not gonna worry about it but here
you accuse me of reporting you for what
I don't know I I don't even have that
personal of a relationship with Tami to
know much about her I don't know you
know we talked but it was mainly all
YouTube talk like you know about you
know like how to gain subscribers or you
know her silly snap pictures um things
about you know just just little tiddly
old things but nothing like I mean I
never spoke to her about her family I
never so excuse me I did ask her about
her sister one day because I hadn't seen
her sister uploading and I had been
concerns I thought well gosh maybe
something's wrong with a Mia they hope
everything's okay with her um you guys
if if you guys are along followers of me
and and maybe you don't even have to be
a long follower of me but my heart means
well to everybody and I would never ever
ever ever ever do something to somebody
to hurt them viciously I don't care if
you are my enemy
look at my molester I could have done
many things to him but why for what
what's it gonna what am I gonna gain out
of it I'm not a vicious person I don't
wake up in the morning to think what can
I do to upset somebody or what can I do
to hurt somebody I don't even go to bed
thinking that I always go to bed
thinking what can I do tomorrow to make
this world a better place what can I do
tomorrow to make my family a better
better family or myself or my children
or what can I do to build my marriage I
never stopped to wonder what I can do to
viciously hurt somebody or to bring them
down or to you know make them less of a
person
I just don't I don't do that that's not
in my blood and I am not trying to toot
my own horn but I will say that that's
not me I refuse to allow drama to come
into my channel I don't want it I don't
play with drama I stay in my own lane I
like my channel to stay in its own lane
I don't want my name blast it all out
there in a falsely accused way and that
is why I'm bringing this video to you
guys because yesterday I did not vlog
because I was so wrapped up in trying to
figure out where when and how did I
report somebody because that's not me my
life has so many other things going on I
don't have time to pay attention to
other people's channels to do damage to
them
I embrace friendships I love everybody
good bad ugly I don't care I love
everybody I find love in everybody and I
would never ever ever ever do something
to hurt somebody and I just want to make
that clarified because I don't know
where that that false accusation is
going to go I don't know where it's
gonna be taken I don't know who is gonna
be told that but I want to make sure
that I clear my name now Tammy this
message is for you I don't know if you
watch my videos I don't know if you
watch my channel but Tammy I'm gonna
tell you straight here for everybody to
hear I did not do anything to cause a
report on you
I would never do that to you I've always
wished you the best I've always been
there for you as a supporter for your
channel for everything that you go
through
I've always ever only wanted the best
for you and I still only want the best
for you with that said it's shown me
that I have to really be cautious
I'm not unsubscribing from your channel
I don't do that
I don't turn my back on people even if
they turn their back on me I'm still
gonna support you but I'm gonna have to
make a strong boundary and I'm gonna
have to take that personal part of our
relationship out of the equation and
just become a normal YouTube watcher
rather than trying to be a personal
friend that I thought I was but I could
never possibly imagine myself being a
personal friend to somebody that falsely
accuses me of reporting them and causing
pain and hurt and drama to their own
life
I hope this message reaches you I hope
it reaches all of your subscribers I
know some of your subscribers are on my
channel and I hope that this doesn't
cause conflict because that's again not
what I want I am a mutual person I can
be friends with everybody and I know how
to
Dilek delegate delegate I think that's
the word I'm looking for I know how to
keep myself within my own lane I don't
have to choose sides I can be friends
with everybody and still be cool with
everybody
I don't gossip with bout other people
that's not my lifestyle and I truly hope
everybody watching this just learns one
thing when somebody shares personal
private information or conversation
always ask yourself before you share
that next conversation with somebody
else is this a conversation that should
be being shared is this something that
this other person that shared it to me
would want everybody else to know if
your answer is I don't know
then don't share it it's all has to be I
never shared private private information
with Tammy and that's why I just don't
quite understand where all of this
flipped and flopped but it did and it's
unfortunate
everybody from Tammy's channel I love
every one of you and like I said I still
support Tammy I'm not I'm subscribing
from her Channel I don't know who's
reported her I don't even know what
she's talking about I don't know what
reports she's talking I don't know if
it's from YouTube I don't know if it's a
personal thing at home I don't know who
what what any of that has to do honest
to god
have no answers I'm just as confused as
everybody else but I will say that I
will stand my ground I will clear my
name and I will cover myself because I
will not go down for somebody else's
drama not gonna happen
so that is my vlog for yesterday that is
run into today
not a very fun vlog and I don't want to
have any more of these they're not
needed they're unnecessary but I'm glad
that everybody is able to watch this and
know that I would never reach out to
somebody like this had I not had to do
it because I would never want to make a
negative video about somebody and I
won't don't look at this video as me
trying to bring Tami down because that's
not what I'm doing
I am simply clearing my name sending a
personal message to Tami this way
because I can't any other way and
letting everybody know that the drama
will stop before it enters my channel I
don't want it I love you guys I love my
channel and I think all of you guys love
the drama-free channels and that's what
I want to be and will continue to be
that and everybody again that is from
Tami's channel you guys are welcome here
I don't want you guys to feel like you
have to take sides because you don't I
don't take sides with anybody either
everybody should be able to be neutral
we're all adults you can beat on
somebody else's channel and maybe not
agree with them like that didn't come
out right you can be on somebody else's
channel that may be against somebody
else I'm not against anybody
I'm not against hami I'm not against
anybody like I said I love everybody so
there should be no choices made anyways
with that I'm gonna close this so I can
get on to my wrist my vlog for today
because it's New Years Eve
whoo I hope you guys are having an
amazing day today and that you guys have
some wonderful plans for us we are gonna
chill around the house I think I might
take a drive out to Walmart
we'll see how busy that's gonna be um
but I gotta go over into Walmart really
quick and I wanted to get a couple
snacks for the kids carb free for right
now but it's all good I'm gonna make it
so I gotta get some exercise in today so
I think I'm gonna take it to Walmart and
do my exercise there get some things
that I needed to get cuz it's all it's
actually you know it's really actually a
beautiful day today really it is it's
not raining at least not right now so
anyways other than that I don't think
we're gonna really be doing much today
um I don't really like driving around
after about 4 o'clock I don't like being
out on New Year's Eve just because you
know there's a lot of traffic and I just
I'd like to stay home and we usually
watched one of the news channels
whatever News Channel does the ball
channel 6 are channel 8 here in Oregon
anyways and it's the New Year's Eve
parties so we rock out to the music so
there's gonna be a lot of fun and I
can't wait to share with you guys what
we're doing plus I'm having another
turkey dinner tonight so anyways I hope
you guys are having a blessed New Year's
Eve I cannot wait to ring in this new
year with all of you guys every one of
you are so amazing and again welcome to
all of my new subscribers I am so
excited to see so many of you new ones
and yes I am going to be making another
video of a get to know me um I have one
that's down further down in my videos
but it's been a while and I've gained a
lot of subscribers since I last made of
like that so I will be sitting down and
doing one of those I might try and do it
today we'll see and then I can get it up
within the next day or two I gotta get
it edited ya know got it but um so yeah
I just I you know I am glad that I was
able to wake up this morning and you
know I had talked to all a yesterday and
was like you know I didn't vlog it all
today I just my mind wasn't there I
couldn't get myself to do it I was so
stressed out with everything going on
because again like I said I don't like
being called something that I'm not and
that triggers me and so it really set me
back I really needed to just think about
how I was gonna handle this situation
and me and all he did a lot of talking
last night and he agreed to just you
know what do my video today after I
sleep and I feel good and you know all
of that so anyways I am gonna close you
guys so you can get on with your
celebration and I will check in with you
guys here in just a little bit so I'm
gonna get up take a shower and start my
day so anyways I hope you guys have a
wonderful day today and I will see you
guys in the morning
happy million
